Breakthroughs and Connections:

A Monthly E-Newsletter from the desk of Patti Ashley

January 24, 2007

Volume 1, Number 2

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone for others.  Unfold your own myth.” Rumi

Upcoming Events:

1.         Sacred Circles of Self: An Introduction to the Mandala-- January 27    2-7 PM

2.         Moms at MoJos Next topic: “The Set of the Sails: Individual Differences, Identity, Self-Esteem and Advocacy”—February 11   3-5 PM

 

 

“We find ourselves in the quiet moments, when the earth pauses and we are still.” Unknown

I decided to start the January newsletter early (Jan.5th) as the snow continues to slow down my psychotherapy practice and I have a bit more time to write.  Many days of not being able to work due to blizzard conditions, have left me with a lot of quiet time to sit, rest, relax and be creative.  The above quote has been on my mind as I feel the earth pause and I watch the quiet snowfall from my window. 

I remember this quote: “We find ourselves in the quiet moments, when the earth pauses and we are still” from a card that was given to me in junior high school from a Franciscan nun who holds a very special place in my heart.  Sr. Claire was my 7th grade math teacher.  Every day at lunch time students would run to her as she walked onto the school yard where recess was being held.  She had the ability to “see” children and be completely present for them.  I can’t remember why she gave me the card or even what it said on the inside.  I only know that those words resonated with me for some reason and I cut out the quote and taped it to the cover of my very first journal.

When I recognize my need to slow down, I think of that quote and Sr. Claire.  She passed away a few years ago after a lifetime of “seeing” children and adults for who they really are.  I remember so many moments with her when I felt completely mirrored and loved for who I am, no expectations to be anything other than me!  I suppose in some way she lives on through my psychotherapy practice where I hold each individual’s truth with a sacred honor.  I know she lives on in so many ways in my life and others.

At my recent high school reunion, I sat next to one of my former classmates who had been especially fond of Sr. Claire since Math was his favorite subject.  He is currently an accountant in Texas—no big surprise!!.  We must have spent hours reminiscing on countless stories of Sr. Claire’s love and laughter.  He shared with me how he continues to play Kripto, the math card game that Sr. Claire played with us, with his own children.  She truly and deeply influenced many lives.

The stillness of the snow has allowed me to re-connect with myself.  Sr. Claire is a part of me.  She lives on as I witness the lives of those around me, as I “see” them and remind them to be still.  What if we all took some time to pause our world and be still?  What would we find in the stillness?

Sacred Circles of Self

There are still a few spaces left for this introductory workshop on the mandala.  Saturday, January 27 from 2-7.  Bring an appetizer or desert to share.  Cost is $75.00 and includes materials. You will learn about the history and healing power of the mandala as well as create your own personal mandala.  720-565-3388

“Children come into the world very much like a packet of seeds with no cover on the front.  It is our job to provide the proper nourishment to allow the child to grow to his or her highest potential.  It is not our job to raise a carnation into a rose or a rose into a carnation.” Dr. Katharine Kersey, my mentor and author of several books including The Art of Sensitive Parenting.

Patti Ashley, Ph.D., L.P.C.

3393 Iris Avenue

Suite 208

Boulder, CO 80301

720-565-3388

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Why Create a Mandala?

o         The meditative process opens the heart and helps shift our focus to unconditional love.

o         It gives expression and form to our intuition and soul.

o         It can bring joy as it heals some of the broken parts of our self.

o         It has a relaxing and calming effect on the body and mind.

o         It can strengthen and focus the desire to heal.

o         It makes the invisible visible.

o         It can connect each individual to the collective whole.

What is a Mandala?

The word mandala comes from Sanskit and means “sacred circle.”  Native American medicine wheels, Tibetan sand mandalas, windows in Gothic cathedrals, and labyrinths are some examples of mandalas. Carl Jung used mandalas in his psychotherapy practice and his personal life as a tool to reveal, heal and transform images from the unconscious.

 

“An ancient circle motif found across time and culture, mandala symbolizes the ultimate wholeness of the psyche in all its aspects, including the relationship between humankind and nature.  It holds the potential of healing—a means of `Knowing Thyself’.”  Paul Heussenstamm, A mandala artist from Laguna Beach, CA

 

New Millennium Moms :  Mothering Beyond Image

Here is a picture from the last NMM workshop.  We are creating a “paradox box” to contain the tension of the joy and sorrow of parenting.  This is one of the experiential activities that the weekend provides.  Mark you calendars for the next new and improved event: April 13-15, 2007.

Parent Heart Mentoring

Starting in 2007, I am expanding my practice to include in-home and in-school consultations.  I will be the local “Super-Nanny!”  My mentoring practice will include post-partum visits with new mothers; behavior management consultations; and parent advocacy in the school system.  I will come to your home and/or attend meetings at your child’s school.  I have provided parent education services for pediatric practices and other organizations, and I want to bring my expertise to your home to help your family feel more connected and loving.  Cost is $25 per 15 minutes (including drive time). 

Breakthrough Psychotherapy

As I continue my psychotherapy practice this year, I am deepening my work with spirituality as a portal to the healing process.  Breakthrough psychotherapy allows you to discover limiting “core beliefs” and break through to your Authentic Self.  Using cognitive and client-centered therapies, dreams, mythology, guided imagery, mandalas, and intuitive guidance, I help you break through barriers to your True Self.  Cost is $125 for a one and a half hour session and is not covered by insurance.  Current clients get a $25 discount on the first session.

 

I look forward to hearing from you!

Call or e-mail me at 720-565-3388

pashleyphd@aol.com